we haven't sent out our invitations yet, but i've already received a few "no's" from friends after sending out our STDs.... it's this mixed bag of emotions. on one hand, we do need some people to say "no", so we don't go over our max capacity, so that's good; on the other hand, you DO like these people, so you WANT them to come (i mean, after all, that's why you invited them, right?). of course, there are those "obligation" invites that you WISH would tell you they couldn't come, but of course they would make the time (come on, I know you all have those people on your guestlists).
so why am i thinking about the "no's" already? i just received an email from a friend we had asked to run sound at our ceremony and reception. this friend is REALLY talented at what he does, and i was really looking forward to having him there... and introducing him to some of my single friends (haha). here is the twist: there's ANOTHER couple in Phx getting married on our SAME date. yeah, i know, date twins are no big deal (and NO this is not bride wars 2). BUT! the big deal is more that we have a lot of mutual friends... as you can imagine - there's some conflict for those who would be invited to both. at any rate, several months after we had asked him to help out at our wedding and he accepted, the other couple asked him to usher at their wedding. so i decided to be gracious and told him to do whatever he wanted, that we would love for him to be at our wedding, but i understood. in short, he chose to go to the other wedding. SO... that leaves me back at square 1 for sound.
and again... back to dealing with rejection. again, i'm reminding myself that MY wedding isn't the sun, and life does not revolve around it. or me. i know that regardless of who is able to make it or not, mr. ramen and i will enjoy ourselves and have a super memorable day. yes, i'm disappointed, and yeah, you want your favorite people to be able to celebrate this pretty freakin' big deal occasion with you, but.... as long as my family is there and we're all healthy, i'm good.
so why am i thinking about the "no's" already? i just received an email from a friend we had asked to run sound at our ceremony and reception. this friend is REALLY talented at what he does, and i was really looking forward to having him there... and introducing him to some of my single friends (haha). here is the twist: there's ANOTHER couple in Phx getting married on our SAME date. yeah, i know, date twins are no big deal (and NO this is not bride wars 2). BUT! the big deal is more that we have a lot of mutual friends... as you can imagine - there's some conflict for those who would be invited to both. at any rate, several months after we had asked him to help out at our wedding and he accepted, the other couple asked him to usher at their wedding. so i decided to be gracious and told him to do whatever he wanted, that we would love for him to be at our wedding, but i understood. in short, he chose to go to the other wedding. SO... that leaves me back at square 1 for sound.
and again... back to dealing with rejection. again, i'm reminding myself that MY wedding isn't the sun, and life does not revolve around it. or me. i know that regardless of who is able to make it or not, mr. ramen and i will enjoy ourselves and have a super memorable day. yes, i'm disappointed, and yeah, you want your favorite people to be able to celebrate this pretty freakin' big deal occasion with you, but.... as long as my family is there and we're all healthy, i'm good.
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